College graduation. What a time to be alive. Class of 2016, we made it. It’s happening. What an achievement. We’re proud of ourselves.

Now what?

I’m sure you’re all as sick of hearing that question as I am, mostly because I don’t think my future is anyone’s business but my own. But what is next? How did you decide on that? Job offers, travel plans, internships, dead-end jobs. The possibilities are endless.


This is what a crisis looks like. Me sitting in a dusty antique store. Totally manageable.

Whatever you’re doing next, I encourage you pause. Now, with graduation. Consider who you’re becoming. Have a little life crisis now, and save yourself the trouble of a massive one at 40. I find that by having an identity crisis every month or so, I stay on top of my life, remaining aware of who I think I am, who I’m actually becoming, how I’m feeling, and what my goals are – really. Because I want to live from a place of authenticity, of truth. And in order to do this, I have to be very in touch with who exactly I am. And, as humans do, I grow and change regularly. Having a clear set of values allows the growth to happen along a continuous line.

A crisis can sound terrifying. They’re mythologized with flashy sports cars or divorces, spoken about in hushed tones as if the person having one is doing something very, very wrong. But really, it’s okay to have a crisis. In fact, they’re unavoidable – life phases end, people die, shit always hits the fan one way or another. So if you allow them to happen, and you get comfortable, able to trust yourself to act well in a state of crisis, you’re way ahead of the game. And 40 will never hit you in the face. No, you’ll hit 40 in the face because you’ll have been actively living in line with your values and talents in a way that gives life to your soul.

I had a crisis yesterday, and I’ll probably have a few more this week. I feel great about it. I am alive, and crises come with that venture. Let’s handle them with grace.


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Bethany Ramus Bethany | ביתענה - household of response, occupation, affliction, and Divine Presence.

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